Let's Move On . . .

There exists a plethora of confusion in the air. Talking about something that haunts you all the time… and you actually don’t even know or understand that what is it all about? I am still trying to figure out that what actually it is or rather how exactly it should be?

They say life is all about moving on from where you were, leaving your forgettable past at a place where you never have to encounter it again. But what actually is the idea behind ‘moving on’? How would one be able to tell if he has moved on?

There can be different aspect to it. Making a new start after you being adjudged a failure in something, a big success of a project, an employee being fired by his employer or anything of that sort – these are just few simple examples or instances after which, we move on to another thing. It’s quite simple. Be it a success or a failure, we all need to leave that behind to move ahead with life. Of course, one can always learn or keep the flavor with him or just leave it aside thinking everyday is a new day.

The real problem comes into picture, when we talk about a relationship. Moving on from an unsuccessful relation is not as easy as moving on after losing your job. There is something that always haunts you – Memories, Past, Experiences, Moments and many more. These are the things that are not in one’s control and that make it all the more interesting and difficult.

There again exists two parts: something that you want to forget and something that you actually never want to, in spite of all the odd things associated with that. The first part is nothing but the materialistic view. You tend to forget all those things that actually remind you of somebody. That’s quite easy. Problem is with the second part where emotion of an individual has got more to do with it. We need to ask this question that, just by saying a NO or YES, the essence of the relationship vanishes? Is it possible that one impulsive decision can change the way you look at the world around you? Practically it’s not but actually it is. It’s not about one person being right or wrong.

What if one partner has moved on and the other is still standing at the door with all his hopes? What if somebody is able to realize mistakes and now want to make a conscious effort to bring things on track? What if the absence of one individual is making hell lot of difference in the other’s life? Should he/she be given one more chance in all the above scenarios? The answers would be definitely subjective in nature. There will be a logical mind playing at the side.

I have witnessed quite a few cases like this, where the person hasn’t got second chance to prove his worth. I have actually seen those decisions making their life miserable. What we say to this is, he/she needs to move on. WTF!!!!!!!!!!!! Just because somebody is not ready to understand the difference between the present and the past, one doesn’t need to do something which is against his inner desires. Desire might be an understatement in some cases. All theses sort of things go on when you’re in that kind of situation……….. But later on, as the time progresses and as you start understanding the logical part of all the illogical things, you realize that you’re just too good to allow yourself to be treated by somebody. And that is when everything would start making sense and you get to know that you have learnt, may be the harder way… But, yes you have….


....You learn that you really can endure

That you really are strong.
And you really do have worth.
And you learn,
and learn…
With every goodbye, you learn.

Nonsense Again

What we feel, what we think and what we actually do – there is significant difference in all the three cases. It can be taken as a kind of hierarchy with ‘feel’ at the topmost position which is more or less free from external disturbance to a good extent. This can be an eternal bliss if goes well or can go equally worst otherwise. It is an outcome of lot of things happening inside you and something that comes out as your emotions. You can feel good, bad or neutral – depending upon what is going in and around you. Since your feelings are dependent mostly on what you are going through and the surrounding you are living in, the chance of making it artificial goes for begging. There is nothing like right or wrong – it is because you cannot reason out why you are feeling this way and hence, you cannot manipulate to your inner self.

Feel is something that is probably the purest form of all the three. The intensity of feeling further categorizes into different levels. An extreme feeling turns out to be a desire, passion or a strong need. It’s a state wherein, an individual gives up all logics and become adamant. It can lead to tremendous success or can lead to downfall otherwise. It’s good to have a desire, but equally important to have a check on it to move into the direction which you have actually wanted to.

Thinking, on the other hand, is a manipulated form of feeling. There is no limit on your thinking; you can think whatever you wish to. You can add spice for the sake of bringing out what you want to. Sometimes, thinking and feeling exists in kind overlapping manner. You tend to go on thinking about something if you have a very strong feeling for the same. Sometimes things do not go well as per our expectation, and we suggest them to move on and stop thinking about it. When we ask to stop thinking that, essentially means to keep a check on whatever feeling you have or had for that thing. Once you are able to do so, you’ll gradually stop thinking about it. The idea is to control (not manipulate) your feelings and not thinking. As I have already mentioned, you can manipulate your thinking but not feeling.

Now we start doing the reasoning. Lot of ifs’ and buts’ come into play when we actually have to do something. Our rationale mind comes into action to decide the most logical and best way of doing or going about a particular action. We do, what we see is good and best can be done with the given time and resources. We manipulate things to suit our requirement. I do not really have to talk much about this part.
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